My oldest daughter, Kassidy, wants to be present at the birth. She will turn 4 the month after I am due. She is so excited, lol. And surprisingly, I am excited for her to be there.
I never thought I would be one of those mom's who wanted their kids at the birth. Not that there is anything wrong with it, it just wasn't for me, or so I thought. I didn't want to be thinking of keeping composed for my kids, when really I needed to let loose and let instincts take over. I didn't want to frighten them with birth noises. I especially didn't want my husband to have to take his attention away from me and attend to the kids. But Kassi is so excited for it, and has really great expectations of what will happen. She is extremely and surprisingly realistic about the whole thing. I'm proud of her :)
Now i am wanting them all to stay close, and depending on how labor goes, they may not all leave until it gets really hot and heavy. Ideally, I will go into labor when they go to bed and they can all wake up and meet their new sibling. I have various reasons why I don't want them to be present at the actually birth of the baby, and I may be completely wrong, and this may all change in a great big hormonal change of plans in just a few short weeks.
Derek is an anxious child, always the "what if" kid. Now on the plus side, he is rarely in trouble, because he is so scared of what could happen, lol. But he is worried about me. He will be almost 10 at D-time, and has seen me have 3 hospital births, he is a little confused on why mom is leaving the safety of the hospital. There have been (and will be many many more I am sure) conversations on safety of home birth. He is kind of funny when he gets all squirmy on the subject, but I am wanting the whole family to be comfortable with the process, that is very important to me. (I feel another blog post forming so I will move on for now!)
Little Ray is my wild child, the opposite of Derek in almost every way, and they are such good friends, they compliment each other well. He is in no way going to be present. He would be making fart jokes, etc. the whole time.
Kayla will be just over 2, and I feel will be the one who might be scared or at the least demanding. I am still playing it by ear on that one however, things might change.
But Kassi is adamant on being present. This is her little sister (she is determined it is a girl, we are not fining out the sex, I don't think anyway)and she is no stranger to birth. Me being a doula I tend to have various books laying around the house, she has stumbled across the pictures of women crowning, some in ecstasy, others screaming it seems. She has watched youtube videos with me about babies being born at home, and seen other children waiting to meet their siblings. We have talked about the noises, and she tells me she might laugh and it will be okay, lol. She tells me almost every day that I'm having the baby in the big bath tub the nice lady (midwife) is bringing over, and her and daddy will be in there with me and help me catch the baby. She really wants to catch, I am reserving that right for either me or my hubby however. Doesn't keep her from trying to weasel it in every chance she gets!
I am excited for a whole different reason. I am excited to see the next generation of family be excited and get to witness and grow up seeing firsthand a normal birth. I am excited to be inspiring her to birth her own babies with confidence, and faith that God designed her body to do things without unnecessary intervention. I am excited that she tells me she wants to catch babies when she grows up. And even though I know she will probably change her mind a thousand and one times before she settles on what she wants to do with her life, and she may do the research for herself and decide on hospital birthing for her babies, or she may never want to have any of her own, I am still showing her that women are not weak, we are biologically made to do one of the hardest things on this planet, and we can trust our bodies to be wonderfully made. I can't wait to give birth.
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